Sunday, October 25, 2015

I'm Going as Abigail This Year

I vote for more purses, toothbrushes, cups, storybooks, and Halloween costumes that feature Abigail of the Old Testament.  She is a heroin worthy to emulate, in my opinion, even more than Cinderella.

Once upon a time, there was a kind woman by the name of Abigail who lived with a surly man who liked to drink a lot and have parties.  One time, King David and his army were very hungry and entered the surly man’s homestead and asked if they could come to his barbecue.  The king had a right to ask because he and his men protected the homestead’s boundary lines.  The surly man said “No.  Get off my property.”  The King had a temper and became offended.

Surly drunk + spiteful King = War

In the meantime, Abigail heard about the situation and spent hours baking cinnamon rolls for the King and his army.  She dismounted from her horse and presented the King with her peace offering.  She bowed low and greeted the King and asked his forgiveness saying “Pay no attention to my foolish husband.  But remember who you are, Mighty King, and that you belong to God and He has a better purpose for you.”  The King’s heart softened and He admired this wise woman whose beauty came from God.  Meanwhile God struck Abigail’s drunken husband with a stroke and he died.  The King rode his horse onto the homestead and swept Abigail off her feet and married her.  They lived happily ever after.

For the Biblical version, check out 1 Samuel 25.

Abigail vs. Cinderella
Cinderella sustains bad press over the years.  Some women think she should have stood up to her ugly stepsisters.  Some think her character plays the victim with too much day dreaming and not enough strategy to solve her own problems.  Some say she wasn’t very selective when the prince came along and she agreed to marry a man she hardly knew just to get out of a bad situation.

Abigail’s character intrigues me; here’s how I think she’s different from Cinderella:

Abigail was victorious in rescuing a bad situation in a healthy way.  How?

She knew who she was and her purpose
She focused on solving the problem.
She took the reins of her own life. 
She didn’t feeling sorry for herself because she didn’t feel loved.
She was “Kingdom Minded” knowing the King’s purpose too!

How could the king not fall for her with all that courage and insight?  Just my opinion, but could he have thought: “She’s the wind beneath my wings.”  This is a whole different scenario from Prince Charming looking for a pretty woman with small feet.

It’s common to grow up in dysfunctional families devoid of healthy ways to love ourselves and others.  Everybody has a need to be accepted and loved.  Conflict enters when we love the wrong way.     

Abigail was wise and discerning knowing with whom to spend her time and resources.  That’s my goal too.

Cinderella fans, don’t hate me.  I know she is an icon.  But when it comes to a good example of a strong, beautiful woman, Abigail should be on the ballot.  

Sunday, October 18, 2015

A Surprise Request

We celebrated my granddaughter’s seventh birthday and I have to admit I was intrigued by one present she requested.

Gift giving is pleasant in our family since we discovered how much fun it is to use Amazon’s wish list.  My daughter teaches her daughter that it’s okay to wish for things, make a list, realizing you may or may not get it all, but surely the gifts that come will be ones you’ve handpicked.  

Weeks ago I asked her to remove Gary and Jan Bower’s book, The Person I Marry, from Sookie’s wish list because I purchased it and mentioned what a surprising read it is for young kids.  The idea for that gift came about when Sookie started asking pertinent questions about the faith of our family members and then drawing the conclusion of how important it is to marry someone with the same faith.  We were astonished at her perception after we picked ourselves up off the floor.

The book is written in rhyme and talks about all the different character traits that are important to seek out in a lifetime partner.  The illustrations are captivating!

I think it’s a good idea to teach our kids not to just focus on the external, but point out how important integrity, kindness, sharing, etc. are in relationships.  I discovered even young kids comprehend and know how to identify these things.

If you are a married person, what important trait(s) would you say you bring to the relationship?

If you’re single, what trait is important to you that your marriage partner would have?

This book surprised me.  Already, I’ve enjoyed the lively discussions in our family!

Sunday, October 11, 2015

Guest Post: Border Town Healthcare

My father questioned if my passport was current.  I grabbed it out of the drawer and realized its validity.   Soon I would be taking a trip to Los Algadones, Mexico with my mom and dad.

I have never seen so many optical offices, dentists, and pharmacies in one square mile.  Sidewalks were crooked, unlevel and in some places absent.  Jewelry vendors placed bracelets on my wrist before I could say, “No thank you.”  Prices decreased the longer I stood still.  It’s a shame I didn’t bring more than $80 in my wallet as I could have done my Christmas shopping all in one day!

Within five minutes of our arrival, my mom signed the paperwork for an eye exam and began trying on stylish frames.  I was led to a dental office waiting my turn for a cleaning.  My dad sat next to me teasing me not to let them talk me into selling one of my kidneys for $5,000.  I was relieved when he left to go across the street to buy antibiotics at the Purple Pharmacy.    At first, I felt nervous as I reclined in the dental chair but to my surprise, it was the most gentle and efficient cleaning I ever had.

I found the Mexican people very helpful and eager to please.  They were persistent and surprised me how they remembered my name!

We ate lunch in a hole-in-the-wall Mexican restaurant that served us excellent fish tacos.  Sugar cane is probably not the best choice after just having my teeth cleaned, but that Coke Cola sure tasted good on such a hot day in Los Algodones.

The words: No Thank You must have spewed from my lips ten dozen times that day when I was asked to buy purses, jewelry, fans and yard art.

On one street corner, I saw a pay phone that must have been from 1985 and I felt like I stepped back in time. 

There were brightly colored storefront shops as well as new construction going up and dilapidated buildings too.

I’m already planning my next trip back to Los Algodones where healthcare is cost effective and the savings are worth haggling with aggressive street vendors!

Written by my oldest daughter, Amy.  She is married to Mark and they live and work in the Verde Valley in Arizona.

Sunday, October 4, 2015

Blog Break/Road Trip

I’m taking a blog break this coming week and will be off line much of the time. 

This quote on Pinterest made me smile:

  “Life is like a road trip.  Enjoy each day and don’t carry too much baggage.”

Speaking of road trips

Our GPS has different voices.  Dr. Nightmare got us to the right town last week where the medical appointment awaited us.  I guess if you are going to the doctor, entertainment helps!  Nothing like a monster in the car with you especially at this time of year. 

My husband impersonates Yeti and makes me laugh.

My favorite is the gal with her classy English accent even if she does mispronounce a few streets.

If I could choose any voice to drive with, it would NOT be Hillary because she’s too bossy and would yell at me if I made a wrong turn, or Elvis—he’s too sexy.  The voice I like is Brooke’s, the blonde who is in the Energy Tomorrow Commercial.  I could listen to her all day.  She would get me there in good form.

If you could choose any voice to lead you to your destination, who would it be?