I'm Going as Abigail This Year
I vote for more purses, toothbrushes, cups, storybooks, and Halloween costumes that feature Abigail of the Old Testament. She is a heroin worthy to emulate, in my opinion, even more than Cinderella.
Once upon a time, there was a kind woman by the name of Abigail who lived with a surly man who liked to drink a lot and have parties. One time, King David and his army were very hungry and entered the surly man’s homestead and asked if they could come to his barbecue. The king had a right to ask because he and his men protected the homestead’s boundary lines. The surly man said “No. Get off my property.” The King had a temper and became offended.
Surly drunk + spiteful King = War
In the meantime, Abigail heard about the situation and spent hours baking cinnamon rolls for the King and his army. She dismounted from her horse and presented the King with her peace offering. She bowed low and greeted the King and asked his forgiveness saying “Pay no attention to my foolish husband. But remember who you are, Mighty King, and that you belong to God and He has a better purpose for you.” The King’s heart softened and He admired this wise woman whose beauty came from God. Meanwhile God struck Abigail’s drunken husband with a stroke and he died. The King rode his horse onto the homestead and swept Abigail off her feet and married her. They lived happily ever after.
For the Biblical version, check out 1 Samuel 25.
Abigail vs. Cinderella
Cinderella sustains bad press over the years. Some women think she should have stood up to her ugly stepsisters. Some think her character plays the victim with too much day dreaming and not enough strategy to solve her own problems. Some say she wasn’t very selective when the prince came along and she agreed to marry a man she hardly knew just to get out of a bad situation.
Abigail’s character intrigues me; here’s how I think she’s different from Cinderella:
Abigail was victorious in rescuing a bad situation in a healthy way. How?
She knew who she was and her purpose
She focused on solving the problem.
She took the reins of her own life.
She didn’t feeling sorry for herself because she didn’t feel loved.
She was “Kingdom Minded” knowing the King’s purpose too!
How could the king not fall for her with all that courage and insight? Just my opinion, but could he have thought: “She’s the wind beneath my wings.” This is a whole different scenario from Prince Charming looking for a pretty woman with small feet.
It’s common to grow up in dysfunctional families devoid of healthy ways to love ourselves and others. Everybody has a need to be accepted and loved. Conflict enters when we love the wrong way.
Abigail was wise and discerning knowing with whom to spend her time and resources. That’s my goal too.
Cinderella fans, don’t hate me. I know she is an icon. But when it comes to a good example of a strong, beautiful woman, Abigail should be on the ballot.