Guys in Pink Ties
How is it ever possible to be unified when people are so different?
A physical therapist at the hospital, whom I will call Ramon, entered my room for the second time that day. He commented favorably about my pink t-shirt I changed into after the nurse removed my I.V. He told me all about his pink tie! Ramon placed a strap around my waist, rolled my walker in front of me and off we went for an afternoon stroll throughout the hospital. Like old friends, we talked about everything. We shared jokes, funny stories about our families and Ramon listened intently when I told him about the inspirational devotional I read that morning. In turn, he responded with a story for me to chew on as well. Time flew and my knee reminded me it was time to get back to my room.
Ramon scribbled notes on my patient chart and pulled his cell phone out of his back pocket. He showed me a photo of him wearing a bright pink tie with a matching handkerchief in his suit jacket pocket. Clearly wearing pink did not threaten his masculinity. I wanted to encourage him. I told him he’s the second man that day I noticed that wore pink. I watched the President that morning on TV wearing his light pink tie. That’s when Ramon went ballistic and shouted he is throwing out his pink tie forever. And, by the way, how could I ruin a perfect afternoon when things were going so well? I laughed and Ramon stretched out a warm handshake with a sincere wish for my speedy recovery. Our political differences ended amicably but it’s not always the case in our polarized American society.
Unity is my word this year.
I remember last fall curling up with my Bible and praying for God to show me a corner of His heart to find a word to carry in my prayers throughout the coming year. I learned during that quiet time that we, God’s people, act out in displeasing ways when we fail to slow down and listen to each other with acceptance. It breaks His heart for He would have us love one another. I began a journey to pray for myself as well as those in my one-mile radius to make it a priority to seek ways to promote openness and not division.
I mention the story about Ramon because surprises pop up and before we know it, we’re disagreeing and sometimes vehemently. That’s not a bad thing, but it could be if hearts remain stubborn and self righteous.
I’m challenged. Unity is a divisive subject! If one feels strongly about truth, how then does one debate without losing oneself in the process?
I look forward to all that I will learn in this coming year.