As a little girl, I would get underfoot and my busy mom would say something weird like “Go fly a kite.” Now I see how she was speaking prophetically over me, well kind of. This past week I stumbled over Winston Churchill’s famous quote: Kites rise highest against the wind not with it.
The life lesson of this, to me anyway, speaks of opposition. What opposing winds in my life have caused me to excel higher? There have been so many circumstances that God has used to shape me. One in particular is my marriage to a partner with ADHD. I have had to learn patience, to compromise, to pick my battles, and to ask God daily for the strength to walk in the power and fruit of His Holy Spirit and not swing my rolling pin as a weapon of mass destruction when I get angry. I’ve learned never to compare my marriage to others or be jealous of girlfriends whose husbands bring them surprise gifts of delicate pastries or dozens of roses. Oh, I get surprises too like the gift I received over the weekend…a pair of pink boxing gloves so that we can exercise together with a new punching bag he just installed.
So I tell myself…roses will die and pastries will make me fat…but my arms and waist need some toning.
Seriously, the ADHD disorder is painful. It steals your self confidence and composure while leaving your brain beautifully exposed. People think you’re a genius who just can’t keep track of your wallet and keys. You cut people off when they’re speaking; your social skills always need improvement. And you desperately need a friend even when you’re wired differently…from everybody. Trust me, we are never bored.
I like what Paul says in Acts 27: “A tempestuous headwind arose” while he was sailing and he and the crew lost everything, even the ship, but not their lives. Sometimes my life seems dramatic and I feel like so much has been taken away. But then I think of Jesus’ words in Mark 8:35: “For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me and for the gospel will save it.” I’ve had to shelve a dream or two to be the wife I need to be or should I say the Christian I need to be. Do I think commitment is worth it? Yes! God’s grace reaches higher than the sky.
I wonder how you interpret Churchill’s quote. What strong winds are shaping you? Are you like me dreaming big dreams and then finding out God is really most interested in your character?
“Strong people are made by opposition like kites that go up against the wind.” - Frank Harris
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