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My Mother-in-law Hijacked My Confidence




If I could go back in time and change something, I would tell myself at twenty-two to take a deep breath and be confident, square my shoulders and say to my Nazi mother-in-law, “back off!”

I never pleased her.  Okay, I forgot to serve her son orange juice for a bedtime snack.  He laughed at that one and told me to ignore her.  I chose the baby’s name without her approval.  My lasagna recipe never met her expectations.

I was anything but confident back then, but this mogul drew me to my knees.  The pain of not measuring up becomes fertile soil to seek a Savior!  Ah, Jesus waits for us to break so He can pour His perfect love into us and teach us how to withstand every earthly blow!

I’m thankful for my mother-in-law.  She drove me into God’s loving arms where I became a confident woman.

“Even if my father or mother abandons me, the Lord cares for me.”  Psalm 27:10

I am linking this post to Five Minute Friday where writers write for five minutes about today’s word:  confident.   

I also want to say a special thank you to several friends who sent me emails or notes concerned for me since I’ve been absent from my blog.  All is well here and I appreciate being missed.  My healed knees allowed me to pursue new interests leaving little time to be on line or to write which I also love.  My routine shifted this past year with new doors swinging open for me.  I never wrote that "I'm closing this blog" post because I hope to resurrect my blog even if I can only get in on a fun prompt!

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  1. Oh, wow! It was so nice to hear from you tonight! I am so thankful you are doing well and enjoying life. God is so good! May He continue to pour His richest blessings on you, my friend. :)

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  2. Good to hear from you, Mary!
    That's how usually things are - you marry not only your heart's choice but also his family, and especially his mother. Fortunately, there's God above and He protects, heals, teaches.cares, reassures. One's never alone in one's struggle.

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  3. And here I am thinking my MIL was an alien! Didn't know she wasn't the only one! Kidding aside, it's so awesome to hear from you sister Mary! Our good Lord always make us find a lesson in everything, be it a good or bad moment. I am praying that someday, I would be a good MIL (God willing). Because it wasn't fun at all to not be loved and be under the microscope no matter where I was or what I did. It took a long time to forgive but I did and what "freedom!". Every season brings us new things to discover and I'm glad you're enjoying your time! I pray for good health, love, peace, and that you always remain strong in the Lord's mighty power! Take care sister Mary. Love and blessings.

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  4. Wow ... it's SO GOOD to 'see' you again, Mary! I love how, instead of accepting your pain, you chose His blessing and self-worth. Most of all (hee-hee) I love how your Tom advised you to ignore her!

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  5. Ugh.

    Lord, please make me a good mother-in-law! My boys are only 11 and 13, but I am praying that already.

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  6. It's good to see you here again! And I love your testimony. I have one that was ok to me, but the kids hated to visit because they were always scolded - expected to sit and not touch anything. My hubby and I frequently said there were things we wouldn't do because of what we saw there.

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  7. I am SO EXCITED to see a post from you dear friend! YES! Oh speaking of MIL...I must say...I had the absolute best Motherinlove and loved her dearly. No, we didn't agree on everything as none of us do but she was always so good to me and our children. I miss her terribly. So glad to see your post today. Hugs and blessings dear lady.
    Cindy

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  8. Happy Sunday sister Mary! Not only on the specific date but each day I always lift you up and your family but much more "that day" I'd be storming the heavens with you. This year, the Lord had brought Philippians 4:6-7 to be etched in my heart and be tied around the neck. I"ll pray that with you until the big day ;) After all, I am claiming already the success in everything because we believe by faith!!! You are blessed to have wonderful children who are there to help you out! Praying also for their strength and discernment. I am also blessed with mine. Thank you for your prayers as well. I know my son finished his career when he doubted it before yet he excels because I know that is His gift for him. To be a Graphic Designer and bless those who will cross his path. So, rest assured. You also got a nurse here in Spirit, to be watching your back ;) God bless and stay strong in the Lord's mighty power. Love you sister Mary.

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  9. OMG!!! "Monday" I meant not Sunday. LOL... I'm literally running after time... Goes by sooooo fast!

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  10. Our words are so powerful! they can build up or tear a person apart! I am glad you found out your true worth! Blessings. Glenys

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  11. Hi Selina



    i am Montoya Jazhel from the philiphines ,i was in a big problem in my marital life so i read your testimony on how Dr Ikhide help you get your husband back and i said i will give it a try and i contacted the Dr Ikhide to help me and he promised to help me get my problem solved. now am so happy with my life because all my problems are over. Thanks to the great Dr Ikhide for the help and Thanks to you Selina.

    You can reach him with this email:- dr.ikhide@gmail.com and i promise he will not disappoint you.



    I AM SO HAPPY…… remember here is his email:- dr.ikhide@gmail.com



































    Kumusta Selina



    ako si Montoya Jazhel mula sa pilipinas, ako ay nasa malaking problema sa aking buhay sa pag-aasawa kaya nabasa ko ang iyong patotoo sa kung paano tulungan si Dr Ikhide na maibalik ang iyong asawa at sinabi kong susubukan ko ito at makipag-ugnay sa Dr Ikhide upang matulungan ako at nangako siyang tulungan ako na malulutas ang aking problema. ngayon masaya ako sa aking buhay dahil ang lahat ng aking mga problema ay tapos na. Salamat sa mahusay na Dr Ikhide para sa tulong at Salamat sa iyo Selina.

    Maabot mo siya sa email na ito: - dr.ikhide@gmail.com at ipinapangako ko na hindi ka niya bibiguin.



    AKO KAYA NAKAKITA …… tandaan dito ay ang kanyang email: - dr.ikhide@gmail.com

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  12. Hi Selina



    i am Montoya Jazhel from the philiphines ,i was in a big problem in my marital life so i read your testimony on how Dr Ikhide help you get your husband back and i said i will give it a try and i contacted the Dr Ikhide to help me and he promised to help me get my problem solved. now am so happy with my life because all my problems are over. Thanks to the great Dr Ikhide for the help and Thanks to you Selina.

    You can reach him with this email:- dr.ikhide@gmail.com and i promise he will not disappoint you.



    I AM SO HAPPY…… remember here is his email:- dr.ikhide@gmail.com



































    Kumusta Selina



    ako si Montoya Jazhel mula sa pilipinas, ako ay nasa malaking problema sa aking buhay sa pag-aasawa kaya nabasa ko ang iyong patotoo sa kung paano tulungan si Dr Ikhide na maibalik ang iyong asawa at sinabi kong susubukan ko ito at makipag-ugnay sa Dr Ikhide upang matulungan ako at nangako siyang tulungan ako na malulutas ang aking problema. ngayon masaya ako sa aking buhay dahil ang lahat ng aking mga problema ay tapos na. Salamat sa mahusay na Dr Ikhide para sa tulong at Salamat sa iyo Selina.

    Maabot mo siya sa email na ito: - dr.ikhide@gmail.com at ipinapangako ko na hindi ka niya bibiguin.



    AKO KAYA NAKAKITA …… tandaan dito ay ang kanyang email: - dr.ikhide@gmail.com

    ReplyDelete

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